I was reading my Glamour Magazine and there was an article that was labeled “Turning 30: 30 Things Every Woman Should Know”. Now, I’m 4 1/2 years from 30 so I have a ways to go but I wanted to run through it to see how I’m doing so far…how about you, what would you add to this list?
By 30, you should have …
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come. - I don’t fall into this category. I got lucky with my husband, I only had one boyfriend before him and I don’t feel like he would remind me of how far I’ve come. I have my husband for that, when I first met Wes I had nothing and now I’m starting to gain more knowledge, skills and love for life. So I’m out on this category.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family. I always buy new, I want to be the one to break in the furniture, to be the one who spills on it first and the one who takes care of it from day one. So I’m covered on this one as well.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour. Done and Done, I’ve had this since I was 20. It evolves with my taste but I always have a professional number and a cute little black dress on hand.
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying. Oh please…I would never carry something I’m embarrassed by. Pashaw
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond. This one took a little while to move past. It wasn’t until I read a quote which I can’t find now and it said something along the lines of “Everyone’s childhood is just that, a childhood, it’s time to move forward and create your own adulthood”
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age. HA! This is laughable…I’ve never been the “juicy past” kind of girl. I’ve never smoked, got drunk, did drugs, had friskiness in college or broke the law…I’m what you’d call a goody goody. I guess I’m out on this one.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it. I’ve had that since I was 15. I have a 401k, 2 Savings Accounts, Stocks and etc… I’m all about the future, so much I should learn to enjoy the now sometimes too.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you. This should be on the 20 things before your 20 because I’ve had this forever as well.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded. I feel like I’m well on my way with this one. I’ve had great learning experiences in the past 5 years. I’ve got 4 years of Social Media Marketing, 3 Years of Management Skills etc….and it’s continually growing.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry. Done and Done.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra. Check, Check & Check.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it. Does my camera count? If not then I have nothing…I’m not too much of a material person unless it will benefit me (such as my camera helping me start my portfolio in photography).
13. The belief that you deserve it. Ooooh they got me on this one. I have a hard time clinging to the positive people in life instead of believing those who are not completely there to help me be a better person, must work on this one.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30. Check (Fish Oil Pills are working for me real well), Check (Tone It Up Girls have changed my life), and Check!
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better. Still working towards the first one, I like doing what I do at my job right now but I’m always working towards more (call me an overachiever), Relationship…got that one in the bag. I’m not sure what the other facets are but I’ll figure that out as well.
By 30, you should know …
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself. - Check! My best friend lets me be who I am.
2. How you feel about having kids. I want one by choice.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship. Check, Check, and Check
4. When to try harder and when to walk away. Case by Case, right now I’m learning how to deal with the emotional part of it before I make a decision that can change everything.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next. Hopefully my husband would say I got that one down!
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town. Wow…Don’t know the secretary of state. I know my great-grandmothers I was named after one of them and the best tailor in town for dresses is Adeline, she is amazing.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to. Good to go on this one.
8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing. As long as I’m behind my camera my soul is soothed.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents. I know the parents one all too well and I know I’m not getting taller which I’m okay with. For the most part this one is good in my book too.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over. It wasn’t but I can survive in the wilderness, shoot pretty accurate, drive in the snow and burp with the best of them.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love. Check
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long. People don’t floss…ew
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally. Check
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault. Check, I think I need to learn to apologize for something that is my fault (dang pride)
15. Why they say life begins at 30. Guess I’ll figure that one out soon enough