Let’s talk Friends, no not those Friends…Although having Phoebe, Rachel and Monica in your phonebook would be a blast.
How do you measure your relationships? Is it by the amount of people you know on Facebook? Can you name all the people you follow on Facebook?
How do you decide that a person is a large part of your life?
Do you believe friends come and go and are in your life for a reason?
I’ve been contemplating some of these questions after a chat I had with one of my best friends (and lucky me cousin) who lives too far away from me. We were discussing how before we moved to our new towns we had a core group of friends who we’d go to the lake with, get ice cream just because or sit and watch a movies on a Saturday night (not our high school friends fyi) just because we were all friends and we loved to enjoy each other’s company. We cared about birthday’s, weddings, births etc. Then we both moved.
Now we have friends that we occasionally see or celebrate things with but something is missing. The feeling of knowing you could call your friends up and plan a Sat BBQ, talk to them about anything and not worry about anything is shadowed by “What is the excuse going to be this time or Am I bothering this person” def something you shouldn’t think when you call a friend.
Has this happened to you? Did you move to a new town and have to start over in the friends department? How did you adjust?