Society is predictable these days. When you start to date someone, you are asked when you are going to get married. When you get married, you are asked when you are going to have a child. When you have another child, you get asked when the next one is coming. Now, granted, maybe people don’t have anything else to talk to you about besides the weather and your uterus is open season during this age.
Now that Logan is almost 17 months old, we have reached the territory of having another. Many of Logan’s friends are expecting a sibling in the near future, or the thoughts of having another are mapped out in other parent’s minds. Mine however…I’ll just take one, please. It is hard for me to explain to people that I am content, happy, blessed, and so madly in love with Logan that I don’t need another child.
Yes, he is getting more independent, yes, he is growing out of his baby stage, and yes, I will miss it. That doesn’t mean I need to have another child. Being a mother was something I never thought too much about. I wanted to have a career, be a CEO, and not live the way I did growing up. I wanted a stable income, car, house, a husband, and the freedom to live life without too many worries. When Wes and I decided to have Logan, we wanted him and within five months of trying we had him, our little man.
My ovaries don’t ache when I see or hold other newborns, my motherly instinct doesn’t burn to have another. I hated being pregnant. A lot of people tell me and Wes every day… He won’t have a built in friend; he’ll be lonely, don’t you want a girl (god, no…) and what I say to that…None of those is a good enough reason to have another child.
Having just Logan means, I can give him everything. I don’t have to split time between siblings, share financial choices between siblings, break up fights, have an extra bedroom, put up with the heartache and worry of two (one is enough in this category).
Do I think it’s wrong that women have more than one child?? Absolutely not! I think it’s fantastic, because that is what she chose.
I choose one.
One Little Man
One Set of Milestones
One True Love